How do we know if we're living our life well?
If we're living a life well-lived?
How do we know if we're mentally well or mentally healthy? How do we actually judge that?
I don't have a single answer, nobody does.
But what we can do, is we can learn to use tools and we can explore different ideas to understand for ourselves, how we judge our own wellness.
The wellness industry has made us feel all of these things - it's given us a lot of resources to develop our wellness but I think there's also a bit of anxiety that's happening around how well are we?
And how do we be well and how do we judge if we're the right kind of well?
I'm not interested in judging someone for being well or not. I'm interested in giving someone a space to tell me how they are.
To tell me what they'd like more of, what they'd like less of.
What they'd like to feel. What they find hard to feel. What questions they have and what answers they'd like to share.
We need more spaces where people have a chance to speak and a chance for people to listen to each other.
When your friend's having a hard time, it's not about saying "Oh, you don't need to feel that way or that's not a problem" or "It couldn't be that bad."
Oh my gosh! If your friend is trying to tell you something, if they're having a hard time.
Let them speak.
Try saying "Yes. Tell me more about that."
Let's be curious and strong and open-hearted and stand in the spaces where people are feeling emotions.
And maybe try to separate the person from their behaviour.
And hear what they're saying and feel what they're feeling.
Because through that, just by giving someone a space to express or just by us being heard when we express, it can give us so many of the answers and half of the problem can go away. I find.
So much of the time we're just frustrated because we don't feel like we make sense or we don't know how to be understood or we feel afraid of our own emotions.
It's time to speak and it's time to listen.
It's time to learn more about who we are.